Facebook Etiquette

Some of the things that I have seen on Facebook are a disgrace.  However, I am an advocate for free speech, human rights, and all things righteous.  I am not an advocate for stupidity, violence, and sexual promiscuity and these are the things that I am seeing on Facebook.  Many of you may feel it necessary to hit the delete button.  I would challenge you to do the opposite and engage your brother, sister, cousin, or friend.  If you are fearful that an interaction will push them further way, then consider indirect postings on your page.  Doing nothing is not an option.

It is my choice to use Facebook. There are certain aspects of it that I enjoy and other parts that I do not. I am aware that I can restrict my profile, delete friends, etc., however, that does not excuse poor judgment that is displayed throughout Facebook daily. I felt that I would use my PERSONAL blog as an opportunity to vent and share some “Facebook Etiquette.” I also received some submissions from a few friends.


My thoughts:

Relationships
Thank you for informing me daily on what is going on with you and your “hubby.”  I am sure you will let us know how good, bad, or ugly the relationship is. Then when you break up everyone on Facebook will know because you will shout to the heavens how horrible of a man he is.

Affiliations
Why are you throwing up gang signs on Facebook? Who are you down with? The Facebook Disciples, the Twitter Kings or the Four Square Hustlers? Do you even know the history of your gang? Most of them started with good intentions.

Vocabulary
Why are people purposely misspelling words? I am not talking about using “u” instead of “you” or “ur” instead of “your.” I am talking about words that look like my two-year-old daughter was smashing the keyboard. Honestly, it gets so bad that I cannot even understand what I am reading. Trying to display your “street slang” through social networking sometimes sends the wrong message.

Pictures
Why do you post pictures of you and your “Boo” in suggestive positions? I see tongues connecting, legs tied together, or people squeezing on body parts. Does Facebook need a maturity threshold? You should have to pass a test before you can use Facebook.

Computer Viruses
Lastly, stop clicking on every link under the sun. You are spreading a virus across Facebook. Do a quick Yahoo or Google search before you click on anything. This will stop clogging up my newsfeed and save your computer from dying.

If you are offended by any of the above, I will not be upset if you delete me. Just think though, how many friends would share this kind of information with you.


Submitted by Yug Gill
Some things should not be on your Facebook wall. Do not put something private on your Facebook wall use a Facebook message instead.


Submitted by Jes Berndt
While it is your right to post your opinions on anything (politics, religion, sports, or your shoe size) it is helpful to ask how others may perceive your delivery. This is especially true if there are people on your Facebook who may wish for your help or support. Are you creating an image that tells others “I am here for you” or “I am open to others’ opinions?” If not, this can significantly affect your current and future relationships with coworkers, family, and students (especially in education).

I would also echo comments about poor spelling, grammar, cursing, and repeated negative venting. Seeking out support and guidance is one thing but griping at every opportunity can make it hard for others to reach out if they think you are not open to the support (and the outstretched hand).


Submitted by Antoine Peterson
First, please use complete sentences.

Second, no [butt] or [breast] profile pictures, you are single for a reason.

Third, you cannot curse someone out and say in Jesus name in the same post.


Submitted by Michele Bookie
Airing personal grievances and too much information. Picking a fight online is not cool. Also, going back and forth with someone on a public space is not OK. I have been sucked into this a couple of times. Sometimes I respond because I feel the need to defend myself, other times I ignore them. Most times, I send a personal message so that I can get my point across without it being public.

Posting status updates etc.. on Facebook while at work unless it is part of your job. Facebook is still a social networking site, and unless our job description calls for Facebook use, it might not be a good idea to post during work hours. As an employer, I might look at the time and frequency of work-time posts as a negative.

Posting anything, positive or negative about your employer unless it is informational.

Keeping your profile (unless you are a public figure, which you should make a seperate page) too open. Use the security settings.

Posting pictures, status updates etc…about anything that doesn’t paint you in a good light. Posting about how wasted you are, how you hooked up with someone or how you were mean to someone does not make you look cool.

Sending multiple application requests to the same person. If I currently don’t play cafe world, or mafia wars, then I am probably not interested in starting. This is especially true with colleagues!

Don’t only monitor yourself, but monitor what your friends write on your page. Your page is a reflection of yourself, so if a “friend” is making offensive comments, then take the liberty to delete the comment, and explain to your “friend” why it was deleted. I have also deleted “friends” for this same reason.

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